Helicopter Parents posted by UNKNOWN Posted on Fri Oct 06, 2006 16:55:10 What does it mean to be a helicopter parent? It is a term seen more and more today then ever before. It is a parent that hovers over their child to make sure they do what they are supposed to do and manytimes it crosses over to making their decisions for them. This is wrong, so wrong of parents. It is important to let your children know that you are there if they need help and ask for it and that you believe in them and support them. But, by no means should we do the homework for them and follow their every homework moment. They will learn to become too dependent on us and not develop high self-esteem.If we are not there and they have a difficult situation they will not know what to do. We don't want them to feel this in the long run. I believe that this over involvement with our children causes us to live through them. This places too much stress on them to please us. Maybe ,this is why more kids today then ever before feel school related stress . I read in the Wall Street Journal today that antipsychotic drug use is surging among children. In the U.S., 2.5 million children are getting these drugs in 2002. In the Wall Street Journal on March 16,2006, it stated that many parents are going to job interviews with their children.The article went on to say that parents are calling hiring managers to protest pay packages for their children. General Electric made an offer to a recruit and the next day their mom called to get more money for their child. The young adult should be doing this not the parent! Will that parent propose to a future spouse too?? This over involvement of parents is causing a dependency of the child. The article stated that many college students are in touch with parents more that ten times a week. When I was in college my friends and I called our parents when we needed money about once every two weeks. We have to learn to let go and show our children that we believe in them . We must encourage them to find solutions to their problems. If we do this they will believe in themselves and high self-esteem brings about life success!! 3 comments--Add comment Stop,Think Then Act posted by UNKNOWN Posted on Fri Oct 06, 2006 16:50:16 One of the most important skills we as parents ,should teach our children is to reflect before acting. Acting impulsively causes alot of problems. It can escalate an already tense situation . Also, words spoken in haste are difficult to take back. Just counting to twenty before responding can manytimes do the trick. Thomas Jefferson recommended if one was very angry to count to one hundred. By counting, it gives a person a chance to calm down. You think better when you are calm. If you react immediately when angry you often feel guilty afterwards for hurtful things said. People will have more respect for you too, if you react slowly in a calm way. So, before you talk see a stop sign, count and then act. If counting doesn't do the trick maybe just walk away and cool down. Your life will have fewer conflicts if you follow the stop,think then act policy. 0 comments--Add comment Everyone is Special posted by UNKNOWN Posted on Wed Oct 04, 2006 13:51:23 I don't like to label children. I strongly believe that if you give a child a label they tend to live that label. Talk about the behavior instead of labeling the child. This way the child doesn't get low self-esteem. they will feel more positive about themselves. As parents, we need to help build our children's self-esteem up. One way we can do this is by not calling them a special needs child but instead a child with special talents. Let us focus on the strengths of the child and help to lessen the weakness. Have them identify their weaknesses and see what you can do to help. If they have math difficulty get a tutor. If they have wonderful art ability get them art lessens and watch them grow. More ... 1 comments--Add comment See More : << 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 >>	Programs * I Can Achieve Goals * I Can Be Grateful * I Can Be Happy * I Can Be Healthy Through Exercise * I Can Be Positive * I Can Feel Special * I Can Handle Difficult People * I Can Learn From My Mistakes * I Can Relax * I Can Understand My Feelings Could not get questions